Relationships can have potholes over the years. These obstacles can either strengthen the relationship or make love, inevitably, the end. In the case of courtships, problems are often related to sex. And is that sexual relations in youth can cause many doubts, confusion, and misunderstanding.

That is why in this article we will answer one of the most frequent questions that arise in these cases: what do I do if my boyfriend does not want to use a condom?

Before facing any type of discussion, the most important thing is that you talk to him to find out why he does not want to use a condom. The possibilities can be many, and it is likely that everything is because you are ashamed to explain the real reason, which can be, for example:

He does not feel pleasure: there are many men who say they do not feel too much pleasure with the condom. This can be due to multiple causes, such as for example that the condom is small for him and squeezes him, that he uses a thick one or that he has a somewhat large foreskin and covers the nerve endings of the glans.

The Condom is big: many boys, before having their first sexual relations, put on condoms by themselves, either to practice or to check that they can fill it. It should be noted that there are different sizes of condoms, but if he does not know and a very large one has been tried, he is likely to feel embarrassed and not want you to make fun of him or think he has a small penis.

He wants to be manly: many times, young guys think, especially in their first sexual encounters, that if they use a condom they will lose part of their manhood. Today, there are many movies and books that show sex without a condom. This, which is highly dangerous, can confuse many inexperienced kids.

Think that nothing happens: it may be the case that your boyfriend thinks that you are not going to get pregnant by doing the reverse gear, and that is why he thinks that the condom is an unnecessary expense. Nothing is further from reality, even if your partner ejaculates outside, there is a great risk of pregnancy because of the pre-seminal fluid that appears, without him realizing it, before ejaculation. That liquid contains sperm, so a pregnancy would be more than likely.

It is also important that you keep in mind that the environment in which your child moves can also greatly influence their decision not to use a condom. If your friends do not use it or live in a somewhat unstructured family environment, it could lead you to prefer not to use it.

As we said, the reverse is not a safe method to have sex, as not only would it not protect us from a possible pregnancy, but we would also run the risk of acquiring a sexually transmitted disease (STD) such as AIDS.

If your boyfriend does not want to use a condom, it is imperative that you talk to him and explain how dangerous it is to have sex this way. And if he tells you that you are not going to infect anything because you are both virgins or have not previously had relationships with other people, remind him that the precum also contains sperm and that there is a possibility that he could ejaculate without being able to control it.

If you keep asking yourself why you want to do it without a condom, the answer may be that you do not feel anything with the condom. This could be due to:

The size of the condom: behind each box of condoms you will find the size of the condoms. These usually go from 53 to 57 mm. If this is too small, that is, too tight, it may cut the blood circulation and, together with the discomfort or pain, you will not get too much pleasure. If this is the problem, you should use a larger condom.

The thickness of the condom: another common and very little known problem is the thickness of the condom. The finer you are, the more pleasure you will feel both, but above all. If until now you have used a very thick or "normal" condom, you probably think that with a condom you do not feel pleasure, when in reality everything would be solved by looking for a finer or ultra thin one.

The size of your foreskin: if your foreskin is very large, you may even have an erect penis, the foreskin covers enough part of the glans, where the main nerve endings of the male member. If so, the boy would not feel too much pleasure and could come to believe that the problem is the condom, when in fact everything is in his limb. To solve this, it would be best to go to the doctor to make sure you do not have phimosis or paraphimosis and have to do a circumcision.

If you want more information about this last point, you will find it in this other article on How Circumcision Influences Sex.

The main difference between having sex with or without a condom lies in the pleasure that you feel. When a man does not want to use a condom, this is usually the main reason. However, men's testosterone is usually much higher than that of women, so when they feel excited they can lose their reason much more easily than a woman.

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